Are you narcissistic because you are not neurotic?

While doing my experiment report and thinking some thinks related to neuroticism’s effect on our personalities I stumbled upon this mind-bending thought. We often describe high-scoring neurotic personality traits quite easily, with things like ‘lack of self-confidence, prone to stress, anxiety and depression’ etc., but how can we describe the low-end of neuroticism? Vanity? Narcissism? Up-them-selves-ness? 

I feel that a low neuroticism score indicates that one understands his/her capabilities and has the ability to view his/herself from the ‘outside’, as if looking from above in a kind of self-examination. This implies that low-scorers don’t only know very well what they are capable of, but what they are not capable of also. Further, this theory supports the idea that highly neurotic people lack the ability to self-examine and determine the limits of their own capabilities, and it is this lack of knowledge that leads to the stress and anxiety associated with neurotic personalities. 

Please let me know what you think. Also, check out the article below if you’re at all interested. It’s good. 

Live long and prosper. 

http://www.academia.edu/157847/Narcissism_and_vanity

Conditioning = Experience = Personality = Preference

I’d like to expand on what I mentioned in my previous post, as the topic has recently become even more relevant in class. I’m also going to kind of just explain some thinks that I’ve been thinking. 

As I said, I believe that at least to a certain extent, the conditioning (reinforcements and punishments) that we receive tend to shape who we are by teaching us which behaviours will give us desirable results. 

When it comes to neuroticism (which I find totally fascinating), I find Carl Jung’s explanation excellent: normality is the bane of our personality. When/if we try or are forced to be ‘normal’, what we have experienced and mixed into our personality is violated and we are unconsciously stuck between a rock and a hard place. I think this is what makes people neurotic: not knowing whether to aim to ‘fit in’ or to truly be ourselves. Please note I am definitely not saying that Bill should be allowed to be a serial killer because that’s ‘who he truly is’. There are boundaries. 

In terms of reciprocal determinism, you could say that one can not be influenced by external stimuli because he or she has his or her own beliefs and thoughts, but aren’t these beliefs and thoughts just another by-product of our conditioning? Isn’t the idea of ‘Rewards+Punishments VS Beliefs+Thoughts’ just two opposing things that are in fact subconsciously merged?